According to the Buddhist teachings, marriage is perceived as an individual and personal concern, since Buddhism neither encourages nor discourages it. As a practice ground, marriage is the vehicle to practice serving others. Since Buddhist marriage is dedicated to the happiness of all living beings, couples are the representatives of all living beings. Monks and nuns are not allowed to perform marriage.
While marriage is not a religious duty in Buddhism, it does offers some guidelines to how to lead a happy marriage. Infidelity, disloyalty and divorce are not prohibited in Buddhist points of view, but fidelity and loyalty are the most essential components of a happy marriage.
BUDDHIST VIEW OF MARRIAGE:
- Transforming one’s inner potential
- Serving others, helping them awaken their potential
- Wishing others happiness
- Attaining enlightenment by perfecting our kindness and compassion toward all living beings
- Supporting one’s parents, relatives
- Loving children
BUDDHIST VOWS OF MARRIAGE:
- Pledging to help each other, develop each other’s hearts and minds, cultivate each other’s compassion, generosity, ethics, patience, enthusiasm, concentration and wisdom.
- Pledging to support each other to go through the varieties of ups and downs of life to lead each other into the path of love, compassion, joy and equanimity.
- Pledging to challenge all external and internal negativities to grow, to open your hearts, and to accept each others; and refrain from being narrow, closed or opinionated.
- Pledging to understand each other, all other living beings and to examine your own mind frequently.
- Pledging to preserve and enrich your affection for each other, and to radiate it with all living beings.
- Pledging to cherish your past joy even if you can’t hold on to your relationship any more.
- Pledging to be patient with each other, knowing that changes come and go, and to seek inspiration from each other.
- Pledging to constantly strive to remember your own Buddha nature, and the the Buddha nature of all living beings. To be aware of the fact that all things last temporarily, and to keep optimistic that you are able to achieve your greatest potential and forever happiness.